“The great paradox of life is that those who lose their lives will gain them. This paradox becomes visible in very ordinary situations. If we cling to our friends, we may lose them, but when we are non-possessive in our relationships, we will make many friends. When fame is what we seek and desire, it often vanishes as soon as we acquire it, but when we have no need to be known, we might be remembered long after our deaths. When we want to be in the center, we easily end up on the margins, but when we are free enough to be wherever we must be, we find ourselves often in the center. Giving away our lives for others is the greatest of all human arts. This will gain us our lives.”
Henri Nouwen (1932-1996) in Bread for the Journey entry for April 30 (San Francisco: Harper, 1997).
I read this over and over. Nouwen sounds so much like Jesus with these statements.
God help me live according to these paradoxical realities so that my relationships, my influence, and my destiny remain solely in your capable hands rather than get all messed up in mine.