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Let your forbearance be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand. Philippians 4:5

“A more glorious victory cannot be gained over another man than forbearance, that when the injury began on his part, the kindness should begin on ours.”

John Tillotson in Day’s Collacon, compiled and arranged by Edward Parsons Day (New York: IPPO, 1884) 294.

In the Apostle Paul’s letter to the Philippians, a context where people like Euodia and Syntyche would not get along with one another, he called for forbearance.

We don’t hear this word often in the States. Perhaps that’s a sign that our society needs more forbearance. It’s a combination of gentleness, patience, and mercy. It graciously holds back what may be deserved.

Recently I have heard a person who had been wronged by another say, “I am going to sue that person!” What if instead, when wronged we proclaimed with forbearance, “I am going to show kindness to that person!”

That’s what God did for us. He showed us mercy, forbearance, and kindness to lead us to repentance (Romans 2:1-4). Let us generously extend the same kindness and forbearance toward others and likewise aid them.

I don’t know about you but this exploration of kindness is killing me…in a good way! It reveals to me that it is easy to be generous with money or time, but it is much harder to die to selfish human tendencies.

Only when we die to this former way of living are we transformed into the likeness of Christ. Only then do we become conduits of God’s kindness and generosity. That’s what He desires for us. Have your way in us, LORD.

Today I deliver a workshop at Gathering First Fruits: National Summit on the Economics of Ministry on my book, Faith and Finances: A Stewardship Curriculum for Schools and Churches.

There are hundreds of people here. I’ve been blessed to see many friends here too. More than I can mention. And, I’m encouraged as a good group has registered to attend my workshop. Pray for receptive hearts today.

I am excited that one of my former Northern Seminary students, Eddie Smith, Sr., now a pastor of a church here in Indianapolis, will share in my workshop how the content shaped his life and the culture of His church.

Eddie was the student that insisted I create a workbook for individual study and for small groups at churches. His passion inspired the publishing of Good and Faithful: Ten Stewardship Lessons for Everyday Living.

The curriculum is for pastors and professors. The workbook and videos that stream freely is for every person on the planet. Seriously, fellow stewards in places like the Philippines, Egypt, and Australia have gone through it.

I commend it to everyone, everywhere, and encourage churches all over the world to use it as a tool for growing good and faithful stewards. Have you gone through it? Click the link above to check it out.

Don’t miss the message of today’s post with the details of my travel and service! When wronged, as followers of Christ, let us return kindness. That’s forbearance! It’s the power of good that overcomes the evil around us.

Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:21

“Conquer your enemies with kindness, preserve your friends by prudence, deserve the esteem of all by goodness.”

L. Carroll Judson in Day’s Collacon, compiled and arranged by Edward Parsons Day (New York: IPPO, 1884) 226.

If you like short meditations that take a long time, perhaps even a lifetime to grasp, then try to lean into this one. There are three distinct layers to it.

Each layer points the opposite direction of human tendency. We try to conquer our enemies. We take our friends for granted, and we demand respect by view of our earned rank.

What if we did the opposite? We would overcome evil and conquer enemies with good. We would nurture friendships with care, and greatness would link to humble service.

Notice the combination: kindness, prudence, and goodness. Goodness, of course is a synonym for generosity. It’s as if this post sums up our exploration over the past two weeks.

With prudence, or in modern terms, with intentional care, let us extend kindness and generosity to all in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

In so doing we will build bridges with enemies, strengthen bonds with friends, and any esteem that returns to us will glorify God who empowers our service and fuels our giving.

Today I fly to Indianapolis to speak at Gathering First Fruits: National Summit on the Economics of Ministry tomorrow. I’d appreciate your prayers for strength, safe travel, and Spirit-filled service. Thank you.

So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. Matthew 7:12

“Relieving distress is doing one’s self a kindness, because it engages others to relieve us, on the like occasion.”

John Hinton in Day’s Collacon, compiled and arranged by Edward Parsons Day (New York: IPPO, 1884) 197.

Today’s Scripture is known as “the golden rule” because Jesus uses this statement to sum up the heart of the Old Testament teachings. It proclaims how people should treat each other.

Ever think of showing kindness as doing yourself a favor? That’s precisely Hinton’s point today. Show others how you want to be treated by how you treat them. But not everyone gets this.

Only when we follow it, do we do ourselves a kindness because only then do we position ourselves to be blessed as we have blessed others. What’s the point for us as we think about generosity?

Bless others the way you want them to bless you. Jesus tells us that the measure we chose for others will be used on us (Matthew 7:2), so be sure not to be miserly!

Do yourself a kindness. Be hilariously generous.

Kind words are like honey — sweet to the soul and healthy for the body. Proverbs 16:24

“Always say a kind word if you can, if only that it may come in, perhaps, with singular opportuneness, entering some mournful man’s darkened room, like a beautiful firefly, whose happy circumvolutions he cannot but watch, forgetting his many troubles.”

Arthur Helps (1813-1875) in Day’s Collacon, compiled and arranged by Edward Parsons Day (New York: IPPO, 1884) 475.

Kind words are little gifts wrapped in letters and filled with goodness. Anyone can share them, regardless of their measure of wealth. They cause people, momentarily, to forget their troubles and experience the love of Christ.

I am becoming convinced of something in this recent exploration of kindness. This is an area in which we can all grow, but only if we attune to how the Spirit wants to extend kindness through us.

Think for a moment about sharing kind words. If you do it this morning, because God’s economy is abundant, you don’t run out of kind words. God can still supply an abundance to share in the afternoon and evening.

There is unkindness all around us. Sometimes (God forgive us) we cause it due to our human sinfulness. What should we do? Let’s resolve to dispense kind words, like fireflies, wherever we go.

And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Hebrews 10:24

“How beautiful is that kindness which is always thoughtful, considerate, and anticipatory; which busies itself with contributing to the good of others, which thinks beforehand what their wants are to be, and how they may be met most pleasantly and efficiently; which thus sows the seeds of happiness and progress along the commonest waysides of life, and sheds an influence of refreshment and peace on all the circle.”

Julia L. Dumont (1794-1857) in Day’s Collacon, compiled and arranged by Edward Parsons Day (New York: IPPO, 1884) 475. It’s been snowing where we live. This is a shot of our townhouse with a blanket of snow (pictured above).

Kindness positions us to bless others wherever we go. Dumont illustrates this blessing with graphic images and words. It appears as “thoughtful, considerate, and anticipatory.”

The thoughtful aspect thinks of the needs of others. The considerate part acts on their behalf. And, as for the anticipatory element, it knows just when and how to minister to others best.

We appear as sowers, diligently sowing to multiply blessings. By the way, if you do not have my book, The Sower: Redefining the Ministry of Raising Kingdom Resources, reply and I will email you a free PDF copy.

Lord, make our generosity “thoughtful, considerate, and anticipatory” so that its timing is right, its impact precise, and so that our sowing influences others for you. Do this we ask in the name of Jesus. Amen.

Set a guard over my mouth, Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips. Do not let my heart be drawn to what is evil so that I take part in wicked deeds along with those who are evildoers; do not let me eat their delicacies. Let a righteous man strike me — that is a kindness; let him rebuke me — that is oil on my head. My head will not refuse it, for my prayer will still be against the deeds of evildoers. Psalm 141:3-5

“The language of reason, unaccompanied by kindness, will often fail of making an impression; it has no effect on the understanding, because it touches not the heart. The language of kindness, unassociated with reason, will frequently be unable to persuade; because, though it may gain upon the affections, it wants that which is necessary to convince the judgment; but let reason and kindness be united in a discourse, and seldom will even pride or prejudice find it easy to resist.”

Thomas Gisborne (1758-1846) in Day’s Collacon, compiled and arranged by Edward Parsons Day (New York: IPPO, 1884) 475.

Ever feel like you are not getting through when communicating to a person or an audience. What if you add kindness to reason? Gisborne offers this helpful advice for us for touching even the toughest audience.

His counsel mirrors the words of the psalmist today. The righteous can deliver a message that may hit hard, but when delivered with careful lips, it will be received as a kindness.

Perhaps there is something you need to say to someone or some group? Keep watch over your words. I sometimes speak then think. Don’t do that. Pause to listen with empathy. Then, put on kindness, speak, and see what happens.

We may have generous reasoning or instruction to share with individuals or groups, but if the message is not coupled with kindness, our efforts may amount to no more than a waste of time and energy.

Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful. And pray for us, too, that God may open a door for our message, so that we may proclaim the mystery of Christ, for which I am in chains. Pray that I may proclaim it clearly, as I should. Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. Colossians 4:2-6

“In the intercourse of social life, it is by little acts of watchful kindness recurring daily and hourly — and opportunities of doing kindnesses if sought for are ever starting up — it is by words, by tones, by gestures, by looks, that affection is won and preserved. He who neglects these trifles, yet boasts that whenever a great sacrifice is called for, he shall be ready to make it, will rarely be loved. The likelihood is, he will not make it; and if he does it will be much rather for his own sake than for his neighbor’s.”

Perkins in Day’s Collacon, compiled and arranged by Edward Parsons Day (New York: IPPO, 1884) 475.

Sala uses a good term “watchful kindness” to describe how we have opportunities all the time to show kindness to others, and to reveal our others-centered Christian faith.

For those seeking to grow the kindness in their generosity, he offers a good list: words, tones, gestures, and looks. With these devices we can dispense kindness.

What’s interesting about this is that when we “neglect these trifles” as Sala puts it, we reveal that maybe our actions are really just for ourselves rather than others.

The Apostle Paul would suggest to add prayer to the mix. This way, the Spirit of God will guide you and bless others through you as you serve as an agent of watchful kindness.

Since God chose you to be the holy people He loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Colossians 3:12

“What does kindness do at home? It makes the mother’s lullaby sweeter than the song of the lark, the care-laden brows of the father and the man of business less severe in their expression, and the children joyous without being riotous. Abroad, it assists the fallen, encourages the virtuous, and looks with true charity on the extremely unfortunate.”

A. Perkins in Day’s Collacon, compiled and arranged by Edward Parsons Day (New York: IPPO, 1884) 476.

Here’s something to think about when you get dressed. Clothe yourself with kindness (among other traits). As Perkins notes, it changes everything at home and brings harmony and joy.

Kindness also shapes the world around us. It lifts up the fallen, encourages the virtuous to stay the course and gives the broken and hurting exactly what they need, a helping hand.

Remind yourself as you get dressed each day to put on kindness. Perhaps say it to yourself every time you put on your socks to remind you to include kindness with every step you take.

Imagine if you left kindness in your clothing closet. You could go about your day and do many things that you think might be generous, but how would they be received without kindness?

Put on kindness at home and abroad.

But let the one who boasts boast about this: that they have the understanding to know Me, that I am the LORD, who exercises kindness, justice and righteousness on earth, for in these I delight,” declares the LORD. Jeremiah 9:24

“Have any of us ever come to the place where we have honestly ceased to glory in our own possessions? Never, I believe, until we have been deprived of them. Human nature is so constituted that while it possesses anything, it can hardly help glorying in it. As long as the Christian feels wise or strong or rich in spiritual things, that Christian will almost inevitably glory in his strength, wisdom, or riches. But if these are taken away, he will be driven to glory in the Lord alone, simply because there will be nothing else to glory in.”

Hannah Whitall Smith in Daily Secrets of the Christian Life: A One-Year Devotional (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2001) reading for 4 June.

In what do you glory? I’ve returned home from teaching. My students learned that when we retain material or spiritual wealth, we will inevitably glory in it. Pride overcomes us. We can’t handle it. When we release all, and trust in God’s abundant provision, all glory goes to God when He supplies.

Let me ask you again. In what do you glory? For years I felt good about my finances. I was content with my Christian faith. Candidly, I functioned as if I thought I had things pretty much sorted. Looking back, my understanding of glory was off, and I was not dispensing His kindness.

Now that you see what I am talking about, consider the question one more time. In what do you glory? Your bank account(s) and your calendar answer the question truthfully. What’s this have to do with kindness and generosity?

Only when obey the teachings of Jesus and deploy all that we are and all that we have, are our lives positioned to bring God glory. It’s the narrow way that most people miss. On that path, His kindness, justice, and righteousness are made known through us.

And, it’s more beautiful and glorious than anything any human can muster.

And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with Him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, in order that in the coming ages He might show the incomparable riches of His grace, expressed in His kindness to us in Christ Jesus. Ephesians 2:6-7

“In our desire after God let us keep always in mind that God also hath desire, and His desire is toward the sons of men, and more particularly toward those sons of men who will make the once-for-all decision to exalt Him over all. Such are these precious to God above all treasures of earth or sea. In them God finds a theater where He can display His exceeding kindness toward us in Christ Jesus. With them God can walk unhindered, toward them He can act like the God He is.”

A. W. Tozer (1897-1963) in The Pursuit of God, excerpt chapter 8, entitled, “Restoring the Creator-Creature Relation.” Click to download the PDF of this classic work.

Tozer reminds us that God views each of us who chooses to exalt Him over all as a theatre, a place to display His exceeding kindness before a watching world.

Would people say that watching you is like seeing a blockbuster or box office bomb? This is a serious question to consider as God’s reputation is at stake through how we, as so-called Christians, live our lives.

Notice that when God sees people who are sold out for Him, He works through them and walks with them. In that sense, He handles the writing and production work. So, what is our role in the process?

Our role is to exalt Him. That’s been the highlight of my Faith and Finances course this week. I had students from past years share testimonies from their stewardship journeys, but I never dreamed what would happen as a result.

In theatre terms, my past students were “smash hits” who captivated current students and convinced them to obey even the more difficult financial teachings of Jesus. God has written and produced an amazing story this week.

Don’t ever underestimate your influence and impact. You are God’s theatre.