Gary Chapman: 5 Questions

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But to each one of us grace has been given as Christ apportioned it. Ephesians 4:7

“What would your relationships be like if you…

1. Treated every individual as a potential friend?

2. Made choices as you drove, talked on the phone, traveled, and interacted with your neighbors that showed you value every person’s worth?

3. Received others’ acts of kindness and generosity with graciousness?

4. Spoke courteously with everyone, even those with whom you disagree?

5. Learned to express common courtesies to the people you love the most?”

Gary Chapman in Love As a Way of Life: Seven Keys to Transforming Every Aspect of Your Life (Colorado Springs: Waterbrook, 2008) 108-109.

These five questions will not only transform our relationships. They can shape our generosity in a distinctly Christian way. Think about it. Christ has apportioned grace to us. Some of us need more than others, and Christ has given each of us exactly what we need. Learning to receive His grace is the critical first step to dispensing kindness and generosity.

I’ve noticed in focusing on kindness this year that many people do not want to receive it. You offer to hold the door for them, and they won’t go through it. They insist to wait and do it on their own. Is that you? How might your capacity to receive need to grow so that your generosity can increase in abundance?

If we want to grow in generosity, we must learn to receive acts of kindness from others. We must put ourselves in a position of dependence on God to supply and see what happens. He works through people, and often the ones we least expect. We cannot give before first receiving, and everything we receive is thanks to grace.